Tickled Pink in Hog Heaven!

 

Katy and her Dad

Katy and I are in hog heaven today....ha ha. I started to erase that stupid phrase.  Just something we said in the south.  But looking at it again carefully I have to wonder where in the world did a saying like that come from?  Surely if the hogs were in heaven their journey there couldn't have been very pleasurable!  Oh well...I'll leave it!  To rephrase...Katy and are are tickled pink (that one I understand) that my son, her dad is coming tomorrow for an entire week.  He'll be here for some fun everyday Life things like soccer practice, homework, and two soccer games, plus best of all, Halloween!

Halloween is a lot of fun here.  Perhaps I should say Halloween here with a ten year old girl is fun.  I am working the school party on Thursday after which we'll go eat pizza. Those lovely Amish women I mentioned in my post about Western Days are preparing  four dozen of their indescribable raised, fried, glazed doughnuts as my contribution to the party food.  Then Friday on Halloween the county's entire population of children will swoop into downtown in their costumes to trick or treat the stores on main street and the small surrounding neighborhood. The houses are so far flung up here in the mountains that people don't get little ghosts and goblins at their doors.  So the merchants provide a safe (paved, level!) haven for all the spooky happenings.  Some of them really get into it, setting up scary displays and acting silly.  It's lots of fun.  And somewhere in there we'll squeeze in the haunted house at the fire station and the Halloween Fair in the gym, put on by the high school band.  Like Western Days, Halloween here is small town America at its very best.  We are just so happy Max will be here to enjoy it with us.

I am looking forward to his visit with more pleasure than I have in years.  He and his dad have been at odds with each other for a long while.  (FH has been so careless with those who love him.) And for the last several years I looked forward to any visit, including Christmas with more dread than cheerful anticipation, and every visit was marred by anxiety and stress.  But oh what a difference now!  He met Katy and I up in Northern Colorado this summer and we had such a fun time.  Max can be fun and he can make me laugh like no one else can when he turns on the antics.  Big, big laughing. And could I use some of that!  It feels so good just to look forward to a visit from my son.  So natural, like a cold, clear drink of water.

He and I have lots of plans to talk about, and I have a list of computer issues I hope he can clear up for me.  He is going to help me do some things around here including moving things out of the garage down to the barn for my sale in the spring, but mostly we'll just have a good time.  He and Katy are going off on a Dad/Daughter field trip on Monday and need I say, her anticipation is also running high.

We will see him every month for the next few months.  I am going up to Northern Colorado to stay at my sister's for Thanksgiving and Max is coming.  Hopefully Katy will be there but the custody agreement does give her mother access here in Colorado for Thanksgiving if she wants it and arranges something.  I don't know what will happen there and in fact I won't know until the last minute, I am sure, though it is most likely that Katy will be with me.  So Katy doesn't know her Dad is coming for Thanksgiving just yet.  If she was unable to be with him in Colorado for that holiday, she wouldn't be happy.  He will return for Christmas here in the mountains, and then in January he is meeting us in Denver for a long city weekend.   I had been dreading the holidays.  Much like I dreaded my birthday in September.  But I am feeling that dread drain out of me; it is being replaced by a much more upbeat and positive emotion.  Actually, this holiday season, much of the negative factor...oh, ok! Let me be honest: THE Negative Factor is no longer in my life. That's a plus.  In fact, all around, most of the time (no, not every minute, but a whole lot of the time)  I'm starting to look at my divorce as a gain, not a loss.

From there, it's forward all the way! (Yes, yes, with the exception, I'm sure, of the occasional set back.) Geeze!! There is this yappy little person living in my head always trying to quantify my happy statements with an insistence on mentioning any possible negative influences that might likely impact my happiness.  Does everyone have one of these crabby, negative women living in their heads? I'm clearly getting the upper hand in this twosome, at least at the moment, but she can drive a NORMAL woman nuts!  I say, just let me enjoy the moment, bitch!

Ahhhh. Silence. That's better.

Ciao, friends!

p.s.  can you tell, I always add my heading last? ha ha. 

Comments

[Judy in KY]

You have wonderful things to look forward to. Kick that negative woman out of your head and enjoy it. Oh man, I wish I had a son to come and help me sort out a few computer glitches.
I don't know where Hog Heaven came from either... but I do believe there are animals in heaven... at least I hope so!

[Alexandra]

awww...look at all the great things you have to look forward to. Chin up!! :) *hugs*

[Mmm]

Things are certainly taking on a brighter hue now, aren't they?

[Pamela]

Edward and I wish all three of you a most wonderful Halloween week! And it sounds like you're going to have one!!

[Pamela]

Edward and I wish all three of you a most wonderful Halloween week! And it sounds like you're going to have one!!

[pam]

Kick out that bitch voice. Call yourself sweetie,'cause you are.Nurture yourself.I sincerely mean that because we can do untold damage to ourselves.I tell my daughter "If you had a child, would you talk to her, the way you talk to yourself, and be that harsh?" Of course not. I don't know where that monkey on our shoulder comes from, but we don't need it. In nurture versus nasty, I'd go for nurture every time...and what a beautiful photo of your family. Without you they wouldn't exist! Happy Halloween Anya and remember, negative feelings are like those stray black Halloween cats. The more you feed them the more they hang around.Tell 'em scat.

[susan]

You must make your own M. Invincible's room as cozy and perfect as can be so that she will stay longer each time she visits. Wink. Have I got a yappy negative sad blah person living in my head sharing this old brick with Madam I ... do I. You know I do. Hope you have a fantastic week with your family. love, Susan

[firebyrd]

Got here via Pam's.
You go girl, don't you listen to that crabby voice inside you. I can only tell you from someone whose being divorced a long time, being your own person is the best. If only cause I can eat toast and tea at three in the morning if i want, with no-one to tell me otherwise when I'm not sleeping

[t.allen-mercado]

Hello, I come by way of the Black Box. What an interesting story you have to share-I'm sure to be back often.

Re: The voice in your head (I giggled when you called her a bitch) for many Christmases and birthdays I have wished for an off switch, right in the center of my forehead-I'd even surrender to the annoyance of bangs if I could shut that bitch up! Peace and wellness,
Tameka.

[BumbleVee]

what a beautiful pic Anya.... reminds me of my sister's area in B.C. you can see for miles between the mountains... lovely green farming fields ..... the smells..... well, some of the smells are great, others like the huge 2,000 cow dairy operation near her is not really....but you know what I mean.

I sure hope you all had a great week visiting and tidying .... I bet you got a lot accomplished.

Enjoy Halloween.... I'll be watching Sleepy Hollow tonight.... .....

[Alexandra]

Hi Anya...stopping by to say hello. I hope you have a good weekend! :)

[julie]

I come to you via the black box widget and I'm pleased to find you surrounded by your son and granddaughter for Halloween. Come and say hello to me in France